Modalities

New Directions: Strategies for Peaceful Closure

Closure – sooner or later we all have a need to bring an end to something – but how do we best find a way that frees us from the emotional entanglement that keeps us stuck?  Closure only seems necessary when dealing with our difficult emotions about an…

Overcoming Disappointment

Bikundo Onyari Recently, I had a long phone conversation with a former student of mine.  She was struggling in her new business enterprise that was under two years old. She was having challenges, especially on getting enough clients to keep her business afloat. The solution in her mind…

New Directions: ALTERNATIVE TO PATIENCE

pa·tience ˈpāSHəns noun 1.the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset. “You can find bargains if you have the patience to sift through the dross” I had to laugh when I saw the latest topic for our articles.  It brought vividly…

Row: On Patience

‘Calm and self controlled’, one of the synonyms for ‘patience’, might well describe me now, but I certainly have not always been that way. With an abusive husband/father, and four children to care for after my divorce, too many times I was anything but calm. My attitude toward…

Patience: Lesson in the Power of Acceptance

 “Patience is about discovering who you are, what you can stand and what you can’t stand” – Bkundo Onyari My niece who is in her first year in the university asked me an interesting question, whether I could be interested to acquire the services of someone who can…

Patient Patients

She left the house early not to be late for her 10 AM doctor’s appointment. Jane was a good patient, well mannered and kind of cheery, if anything: optimistic. Though she arrived with ample time to spare, there were three early birds ahead of her. An “Awe” utter…

How to Say No

Generally speaking, people can’t say no to someone for asking them for something because they are so worried about upsetting the person or lack the courage to turn down the request. People often dislike disagreeing or believe saying yes is easier than saying no. Others can simply not…

New Directions: The Choice is Up to You

As a life/wellness coach the notion of choices is at the root of my practice as most folks who find me are in a quandary about the next steps to take on this journey we call life.  Some folks that see me don’t really believe they have any…

Choice: A Primal Concept

How far back in history does the notion of “Choice” find its origin? Obviously, that had to be an act of God or whatever Supreme Being you believe existed back then. Does God choose? Of course not! Isn’t God supposed to be spontaneous? So my question to you…

Starrdust: 2016 – A Choice of Translucence

2016 is upon us, and resolutions will undoubtedly be abundant. But what is a resolution but a choice?  And what is a choice without its due follow-through? “A choice without follow-through is but a lie,” some might say, and they would be right. Well, here is my resolution…